Three Years Ago Today.

Selah Thu became ours on this day three years ago. I simply can not imagine life without my beautiful girl. Of course, it wasn't easy. Just like pregnancy, an adoption process is filled with uncertainty and scary moments. But, the second your child is placed in your arms, every doubt simply vanishes. Selah Thu is "ours" in every sense of the word and we know that God's hand orchestrated every part of her becoming ours.

Our very first glimpse of Selah sent via e-mail.

Me meeting Selah for the first time at the orphanage.

Jeff meeting Selah for the first time. She really took to him more than me at first. I remember him saying, "Hello, my sweet Selah. Daddy's gonna buy you a car and a pony. Whatever you want because you're my girl, aren't ya?"

Our spunky, sassy girl.

This isn't the greatest pic of Selah, but I just love the relationship that these two have. Selah adores her daddy. (more than me, I think)

I LOVE THIS GIRL!!!!! (And I think our smiles are similar.)

Several months ago, a friend e-mailed me after I had made a comment about Selah being adopted. (I can't remember the exact comment.) Anyways- my friend wrote and said something along the lines of, "I forget that Selah is adopted because she is so much a part of your family. When I look at her, I don't see your "adopted" daughter, I simply see Selah, your daughter." (I'm not sure, Hope, you knew how much those words meant to me at the time.)

You see, I don't recognize Selah as my adopted daughter. When someone approaches us and asks us about her, I am usually taken aback because I forget that she looks different. She is just our daughter.

She is not my adopted daughter. Not my daughter that looks different.

Just my daughter.

Jeff and I are having a discussion and would like your opinion.

Is it always possible for one spouse to work and one to stay at home and maintain a reasonable standard of living? (ie, live above poverty) Post anonymously if you feel the need.