The one that my parents pretend I didn't write.

I've had something on my mind lately. It's really bugging me. It has to do with "relations" between a husband and a wife. Now, I am NOT afraid of the "s" word, believe me. But, I don't want to write it on this blog and receive unwanted visitors who may be searching for certain articles with the "s" word. So, please know that if you speak to me in person about this subject I am more than happy to use correct terminology, but, for now, on this blog, I will refer to the "s" word as "relations."

I help out with a group at our church called Moms and Tots. It's basically a bunch of moms who get together and have an hour or so of uninterrupted conversation while the kids are being babysat. When I asked the moms what sorts of topics they would like to talk about this year, guess what their first answer was? That's right- relations. Several moms said things along the lines of, "I just want to spice it up more and I want to talk about it openly and honestly in a non-raunchy sort of way."

I have several friends right now who are struggling in their marriages because of lack of relations. Either, it's never been fun or life has gotten in the way and there seems to be no time or energy for it.

I just think that God made relations, people. I think he made it for us to enjoy in our marriages! He didn't make it for us to dread or despise or withhold. He made it for our enjoyment! And I can't figure out why, if He made it for us to enjoy, it's such a taboo subject. I can't figure out why we don't talk about it more at church and with our small groups. I can't figure out why it seems to be such a shameful subject.

Having relations with your spouse is NOT shameful. It is not scandalous. It is a beautiful, amazing God- created gift. Not to mention the fact that it is a physical and emotional need!

I want to direct you to a Christian- based website that we (Jeff and I) have found to be very "helpful." It is called The Marriage Bed. LOVE this site!

For my sake and for others who read this blog and struggle in this area, I would love to hear your suggestions on ways to improve this part of our marriages. And, as always, please comment anonymously if you feel the need!